Ever wonder why the most gorgeous girl you know can’t hold a guy’s attention in conversation? There’s a good chance it’s because she’s lost touch with her natural, feminine ability to listen. That’s right, as a woman, you were born with the special gift of communication, but like the sweater you got for your birthday last year, sometimes this gift gets tucked away in the back of the closet and forgotten.
Your special communication abilities, particularly your listening skills, are a huge advantage when it comes to men. If you listen well, he will want to open up to you. That dynamic creates a sense of connection for both of you.
The truth is, most men don’t sit around with their buddies hashing out their feelings. You, on the other hand, have your girl friends, who will hold your hand and let you cry. You have your sisters. You have your mother. Many studies prove that women communicate with each other all the time. Women are encouraged to communicate. Men, on the other hand, are not. So imagine the great relief you’re providing when you listen to a man: In a way, you are single-handedly becoming his entire support network. If you let a man open up to you, if you listen and empathize, there’s a good chance he’ll never want to let you go.
My grandmother was deaf, and still she was the best listener I have ever met. I still remember how attentive she was when my grandfather would talk to her, and she would read his lips, and when he would say something sad her eyes would show sadness, and when he would say something happy, her face would light up.
And I promise it’s not just an old-fashioned thing!